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4 Ways To Embrace Uncertainty

Wednesday, March 28, 2018
Always do what you are afraid to do.-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Have you ever felt like you were just not good enough? That somehow everyone had received the handbook for life, except you? Do you keep waiting for the moment when you will finally arrive and feel like you have made it?Yes, I have been there too. When I was younger, I was sure that age 35 was when I would definitely arrive at my full self — that I would finally become who I really was  and who I was meant to be.When I turned 35, I was in a state of shock when I realized I had not  arrived at this age as I had imagined. I did not have it all figured out. Far from it.
How had I arrived at this spot in my life and still felt like I had so much to do to get where I wanted to be in my career? With so many unknowns?
I felt angry.
Angry at myself for being so uncertain about my future
Angry at all of those people who supposedly had it all figured out
Angry that I didn’t have it figured out by now
I lashed out. I cried. I tried to stay busy, so I could avoid the thoughts that were hurting me so much.
  1. Re-frame Imperfection
Perfection is a shield we use to hide from our true gifts. The most ironic thing I discovered is that those things I thought were my biggest imperfections are actually my greatest gifts. This was so freeing. So first and most importantly, we must re-frame what imperfection means. By embracing our imperfections not as faults, but as a demonstration of our unique gifts, we can see our strengths more clearly.
  1. Avoid Seeking the Approval of Others
We all want to be accepted and loved. However, to really live the life we want we need to tell the truth about who we are, not wait to get praise or approval from others first. This is a difficult thing to do, and it takes practice. One thing I learned to do is to keep a Self Appreciation Journal where each day I acknowledge and keep track of the things I am most proud of, the good choices I have made, and the successes I have had. This type of practice strengthens our trust in ourselves, so we don’t always need to look for others for the answer.
  1. Rethink Risks
When we start something new, there are so many things we are uncertain about.
It was helpful for me to reframe these moments of uncertainty and the outcomes of these new actions as learning opportunities. By taking small risks, we move out of our comfort zone and into the learning zone. We can reframe outcomes that did not go as planned not as mistakes but as good ways to get feedback and learn something new.
  1. Know That You Are Enough Right Now
It hit me that I had been bogged down with a list of all of the things I needed to learn, to master, to do before I felt ready to start the career I really wanted. I needed to stop waiting.
We need to let go of the stories we tell ourselves about where we are supposed to be. We are all becoming who we are every day, over and over again. There is no arrival point.
I like to say this short affirmation when I am feeling stuck: “I am enough.”
I am enough. You are enough. We are enough.
Build the Life You Want
The only thing constant in life is change. To fully embrace uncertainty we must replace fear of the unknown with curiosity. With a curious mindset, we can see the new pathways that point in the direction of our dreams. Are you ready to embrace uncertainty and build the life you want?
The world is waiting for us to tell our stories and live our dreams. Let’s get started
Post by Heidi Hill